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Nursing (Auckl). Author manuscript; available in PMC 2012 December 19.
Published in final edited form as:
Nursing (Auckl). 2012 October; 2012(2): 55–65.
doi:  10.2147/NRR.S37084
PMCID: PMC3526661
NIHMSID: NIHMS426135

Early adolescent African American girls’ perceptions of virginity and romantic relationships

Abstract

Background

Nationally, African American (AA) girls aged 15 to 19 have the highest incidence of Chlamydia, gonorrhea, and syphilis compared to White and Hispanic girls of the same age group. To address this STI epidemic, it is imperative to target AA girls during early adolescence and before sexual debut. According to the 2011 National Youth Risk Behavior Survey, approximately 7% of AA girls initiate sex prior to age 13. The purpose of this descriptive, qualitative study was to explore AA girls’, aged 12 to 14, perceptions about virginity and relationships and how those perceptions influence their decisions to engage in or abstain from sexual activity.

Methods

A convenience sample of 64 participants was recruited through community-based organizations in Alabama. Data were collected using individual interviews and focus groups. Individual interview focused on (1) values and beliefs about being a virgin, (2) choosing boyfriends, and (3) perceptions about good and bad relationships. Focus groups were held to validate findings from interviews. Verbatim transcripts of audiotapes, observation notes, and demographic data were primary data for analysis. Content analysis was used in analysis and interpretation of qualitative data to formulate meaningful categories, themes, and patterns. The qualitative research software, QSR N-Vivo®, was used to code and sort data into categories. The SPSS statistical software was used to conduct descriptive analyses to describe the study sample.

Results

Mean age of study sample was 12.9 years. Out of 64participants, 5 reported having engaged in sexual activity. Mean age of sexual debut was 13 years. Common themes that emerged included: respecting myself, ideal boyfriend, characteristics of a romantic relationship.

Conclusions

Findings from this study suggest STI prevention programs should build upon the values related to virginity to promote delaying sexual activity. Furthermore, findings suggest the need for education about healthy relationships.

Keywords: sexual decision-making, sexual risk-taking, STI, boyfriends

Introduction

Romantic relationships are described as “mutually acknowledged ongoing voluntary interactions [having] a distinctive intensity, commonly marked by expressions of affection and current or anticipated sexual behavior”.1 It is believed that the development of romantic relationships begins during early adolescence and evolves throughout adolescence into adulthood.2 Within the context of romantic relationships, adolescents formulate their own understandings of sexual behavior and sexuality.3 Findings from the National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent Health indicate that the majority of adolescents have had at least one relationship with a boy or girl by the end of early adolescence. 1,4

Early adolescence, defined as ages 12 to 14, is a period of transition that involves pubertal and cognitive changes as well as changes in social development signifying the beginning of sexual maturity and adulthood.57 A major developmental task during adolescence is identity development. Among adolescent girls, identity development is often associated with intimacy, which they perceive to be intertwined with caring and affection. Caring is a highly valued feeling among early adolescent girls and plays a major role in becoming involved in a romantic relationship.8,9 It is through the involvement in romantic relationships and the degree of importance placed on caring that early adolescent girls are likely to engage in coital and noncoital behaviors.1,9 Findings from a study of adolescent relationships showed that perceived high levels of intimacy, caring and emotional engagement within a relationship are significantly associated with initiating sexual activity.10

A study using data from the National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent Health examined the development of romantic relationships from early adolescence to early adulthood. Findings from that study showed that African American adolescents were less likely to be involved in a romantic relationship compared to Caucasian adolescents. However, if African American adolescents, particularly girls, were involved in romantic relationships, they were more likely to be involved in long-term relationships rather than multiple short-term relationships.4 Because the likelihood of engaging in sexual intercourse increases with the duration of a relationship, Meier and Allen4 suggest a possible association between involvement in long-term romantic relationships and early sexual debut among African American adolescents.

According to the 2011 National Youth Risk Behavior Survey, approximately 7% of African American females engaged in sexual activity prior to the age of 13.11 Despite this small percentage, early initiation of sexual activity is associated with multiple sexual risk behaviors such as inconsistent condom use and high number of lifetime sexual partners and both behaviors are associated with increased risk for unplanned teen pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections (STI) including HIV.1214 Nationally, African American girls aged 15 to 19 have the highest incidence of Chlamydia, gonorrhea, and primary and secondary syphilis compared to White and Hispanic females of the same age group.15 To address this STI epidemic, it is imperative to target African American girls during early adolescence and before initiation of sexual activity.

Much has been written about sexually active adolescents in terms of predictors of sexual debut, sexual risk behaviors, and the progression from being a virgin to becoming sexually active. However, there is a dearth of literature about early adolescent African American girls’ meanings of being a virgin and how those meanings interplay with decisions about engaging in sexual activity. Additionally, little is known about their perceptions of qualities related to boyfriends and relationships and how those perceptions lead to involvement in romantic relationships. The purpose of this qualitative study was to identify developmental and sociocontextual factors that influence the sexual decision-making processes of African American girls aged 12 to 14. The data reported in this article focuses on the exploration of their perceptions about virginity, romantic relationships, and how those perceptions influence their decisions to engage in or abstain from sexual activity.

Methods

Design, setting, and sample

This study used the qualitative approach of descriptive inquiry16 within the context of individual interviews and focus groups to generate detailed descriptions of early adolescent girls’ perceptions about virginity, boyfriends, and relationships. The approach of descriptive inquiry allows the researcher to look closely at the data with the intent of providing detailed analysis of the participants’ stories without the meanings of the participants’ words and descriptions of experiences being lost. By doing so, the findings are presented within the context of reality as it is perceived by the participants.16 The descriptive inquiry approach was well suited to this study in that the data as presented by the study participants was used to describe perceptions about being a virgin and beliefs associated with maintaining virginity, characteristics believed to be important in choosing a boyfriend, psychosocial and situational factors that influence ability to delay initiation of sexual activity, and perceptions about what constitutes good and bad relationships.

Between August 2010 and February 2012, a convenience sample of 64 African American adolescent girls was recruited through community-based organizations affiliated with an HIV Prevention Network Group located in a metropolitan city in the southeastern United States. The HIV Prevention Network Group is a consortium of clinics and community-based organizations whose focus is to educate communities about the risk factors and modes of transmission for STIs including HIV through community outreach programs and implementation of curriculum-based STI and HIV education in area high school settings. Some of the participating community-based organizations and groups affiliated with the HIV Prevention Network include Girls Inc., local African American sororities, and YWCA. These community-based organizations were identified as initial recruitment sites because they had established ongoing activities for adolescents ranging from after-school programs and summer camps to community educational events on health, teen pregnancy and HIV/STI prevention. Potential participants were also recruited through ‘word of mouth’ by participants who were enrolled in the study. Criteria for inclusion were: (1) African American girl, (2) age 12 to 14, (3) able to read and speak English, (4) willing to participate in an individual interview or group discussion, (5) parental/guardian consent to participate, and (6) adolescent assent to participate.

Procedures

The Institutional Review Board of the University of Alabama at Birmingham reviewed and approved the protocol for this study. A combination of purposive and snowball (referral) sampling was used to recruit study participants. A total of 70 adolescent girls were screened: three girls were not enrolled because they were under the age of 12 and three girls were not enrolled because they were unable to schedule an interview time. For the eligible 64 girls, parental/guardian consent and adolescent assent were obtained prior to enrolling the adolescent in the study. Each participant took part in an individual interview or focus group discussion received $40 cash as compensation for participation in the study.

Demographic Data and Sexual Behavior

A demographic form were used to elicit information about age, educational level, grades earned, socioeconomic status (based on whether participant received free or reduced school lunch),17 marital status of parents, guardianship (lives with parent or someone else), number of siblings, birth order, and ever had sex. A separate form was used to elicit information about sexual behavior, which included initiation of sexual activity, age of sexual debut, number of sexual partners in past year, and condom use. For each item related to sexual behavior, participants were asked about vaginal, oral, and anal sex.

Individual Interviews

Face-to-face individual interviews were conducted first and focused on: (1) values and beliefs about being a virgin, (2) choosing boyfriends, and (3) perceptions about good and bad relationships. The interviews were conducted by a member of the research team trained in interviewing skills and techniques and interview protocol. All interviews were held in a private room at a location convenient for the participant. The interviews were conducted using a semi-structured interview guide developed by the first author, which served as the protocol for all interviews to ensure consistency in implementation. The following questions were included in the interview guide: (1) What does being a virgin mean to you? (2) Imagine a boy wants you to be his girlfriend. Tell me some things about him that would persuade you to be his girlfriend? (3) Describe what you think is a good relationship between a boyfriend and girlfriend; describe a bad relationship. The interviewer used probing questions as needed to elicit further descriptions of participants’ experiences and perceptions. Each interview was digitally recorded and transcribed verbatim. Thirty-six (36) participants took part in the individual interviews. The individual interviews lasted 45 to 60 minutes.

Focus Groups

After the individual interviews were completed, recruitment for focus group sessions began. Three focus group sessions were held to validate the findings from the individual interviews. These sessions were conducted by the author and a member of the research team. Twenty-eight (28) participants took part in a focus group discussion with nine to ten participants per group. The focus groups were implemented using a focus group implementation guide developed by the first author, which served as the protocol for each focus group. The questions and scenarios for this guide were developed based on findings from the individual interviews. All focus group sessions were held in a private conference room at a location convenient for the participants. After introductions and before the focus group discussion began, the interviewer shared with the participants an overview of the perceptions and thoughts of the girls who participated in the individual interviews. The participants in the focus group were then invited to comment on the findings. An example of a question included in the guide is: The girls we interviewed said being a virgin meant respecting your body and loving yourself; tell me what you think about these comments. Tell me your thoughts about what being a virgin means to you. This format of questioning permitted discussion of choosing boyfriends and describing good and bad relationships between boyfriends and girlfriends. Additional questions were used to elicit further feedback from the group. All focus group sessions were digitally recorded and transcribed verbatim. The focus group sessions lasted 90 minutes to two hours.

Data analysis

Transcribed interviews and focus group sessions were reviewed by the author and compared to the digital recordings to ensure accuracy of the transcripts. Qualitative content analysis was used in analysis and interpretation of the qualitative data because it is the analysis strategy of choice in qualitative descriptive studies.16 The authors independently read each interview and focus group transcript and extracted data segments which were organized according to the interview questions. Next, each author independently coded and categorized the data segments then formulated meaningful categories, themes, and patterns. The final coding was determined by agreement of at least two of the three coders. The qualitative research software, QSR N-Vivo®, was used in coding and sorting of data into categories.

Validity and reliability of the findings were assessed by: (1) independent review and analysis of transcripts by the authors with differences in coding resolved through discussion; (2) use of focus groups to solicit feedback on the plausibility of the findings from the individual interview; and (3) comparison of findings with existing literature to determine consistency in results.

Results

Sample characteristics

The participants ranged in age from 12 to 14 years (M = 12.9 years, SD = .84). The majority of participants lived in single-parent households headed by their mother, father, grandmother, or other relative (n = 42, 65.6%). All participants living in single-parent households reported that their fathers were actively involved in their lives (Table 1). Of the 64 participants, only five (7.8%) reported having engaged in oral, anal, and/or vaginal sex. The age for initiation of oral sex was 14 years (n = 1), and for anal sex, 13 years (n = 1). All five sexually active participants (100%) reported engaging in vaginal sex with the mean age of initiation being 13 years (SD = 1). Two of the sexually active participants (40%) reported having engaged in one or more types of sexual activity (vaginal, anal, and/or oral). Four sexually active participants (80%) reported having had more than one sexual partner during the year prior to enrollment in the study. All sexually active participants reported inconsistent condom use during oral, anal, and/or vaginal sex.

Table 1
Sociodemographics of Individual Interview Participants and Focus Group Participants

Findings from Interviews

The content analysis yielded three themes that embodied the participants’ perceptions about virginity, boyfriends, and relationships: respecting myself, ideal boyfriend, and characteristics of a romantic relationship. The first theme, respecting myself, was related to maintaining your virginity. The majority of participants held strong beliefs about the importance of being a virgin and waiting until they were older to have sex. The major sources of these beliefs identified by participants were conversations with their mothers and teachings in their churches. The second theme, ideal boyfriend, involved those physical and personality characteristics that the participants wanted in a boyfriend. The third theme, characteristics of a relationship, was related to the participants’ understandings and beliefs about boyfriend-girlfriend relationships in terms of what constituted a good versus bad relationship. The second and third themes emerged from discussions about people and situations that would influence the participants’ abilities to maintain their virginity.

Theme: Respecting Myself

In discussing sexually-related topics with the girls, it was important know how they define sex. Therefore, the girls were asked what sex is. The majority of girls defined sex as being oral, anal, and vaginal. One girl described sex as “like mouth to penis, mouth to vagina, penis to vagina, penis to butt, all that.” However, several girls in one focus group were unaware that engaging in oral and anal sex constituted sexual intercourse. One girl stated,

Because a lot of the girls they probably don’t even know what it [oral sex] is. And they talk about it. And when you say like, finger [sex], they probably don’t think it’s something. ‘Cause it [oral and finger sex] ain’t sex until like his penis put in her.

Another girl added, “they [friends] said they half virgin. I know what they are saying, they saying like, he ain’t actually put it [penis] in her.” In regards to anal sex, one girl in the focus group stated, “the one they stick it [penis] in your butt. I don’t even think they know that [anal sex] is sex.” Another girl explained, “Because you don’t have that greater chance of getting pregnant.” These type statements were not made by girls who participated in the individual interviews and other focus groups. After the discussion about what sex is, the girls in this focus group understood that sex included oral, anal, and vaginal sex regardless of the risk for becoming pregnant.

To gain an understanding of how the girls defined virginity, they were asked what a virgin is. All of the girls said that it was someone who “had not sex yet.” Several girls added, “A virgin is like, when you ain’t had oral sex or nothing like that.” Another girl referred to it as staying pure.” Being a virgin was highly valued among the majority of girls. One girl stated, “It’s [virginity] sacred, you don’t just want to go around doing it with everybody.” As each girl talked about what being a virgin meant to them, they shared stories of what their mothers told them about being a virgin. In one of the individual interviews, a girl told the interviewer her mother said “you ought to keep your virginity, because it’s precious. Because once you lose it you don’t get another one.” Many of the girls talked about how their mothers encouraged them to wait until they were older and to “wait for the right person.”

The value placed on virginity that was heard throughout the individual interviews was validated within the focus groups. One girl in the group stated, “being a virgin means having respect for my body and not just giving myself away.” Another girl stated, “it’s not right for, like, you to give up your virginity for something that doesn’t quite make sense at all.” This girl went on to share a story about her friend:

You can’t just be going like having sex with your boyfriend and stuff like that, ‘cause like, my friend, perfect example, she had sex and then like a couple of weeks later they broke up. And then she’s no longer a virgin and he’s gone.

Other girls in the individual interviews and focus groups shared similar stories about their friends who were sexually active.

In one of the focus group sessions, a girl talked about the “power” of virginity. She stated: Your virginity is your dignity. So, when you give away your virginity, that’s like giving away a part of yourself. I feel like if you still have your virginity, not saying that the girls that do not have their virginity are dumb, but, you have all the power in the world if you still got your virginity and you are confident with yourself.

The sense of power and confidence in relation to virginity seemed to be a sentiment held by all the girls. However, since virginity status of the girls was not disclosed publicly in the individual interviews and focus groups, it is unknown whether the five girls who had engaged in sexual activity felt less powerful or less confident in themselves than did the girls who are virgins. Because the girls placed a high value on virginity, they were asked what would make it difficult for them to wait until they were older to have sex. All of the girls agreed that having a boyfriend would make it difficult to wait. One girl stated:

Sometimes they [boyfriends] don’t want to wait and it’s like they’ll ask you and sometimes you might be curious of how things go and you might just decide to try it.

Similar responses were given by other girls who participated in the individual interviews and focus groups.

Theme: Ideal Boyfriend

Finding the “right” boyfriend was mentioned by all of the girls. A girl in one of the focus groups said “sometimes it’s not like what they look like on the outside.” This opinion was echoed by girls who participated in individual interviews and focus groups. When asked what they looked for in a boyfriend, the girls immediately began identifying personality traits and behavior:

I think you should choose a boyfriend on like how much do ya’ll have in common and is he like, well I guess the looks do matter, they matter to me, and after looks, is he truly a good boy…he won’t pressure you into nothing that you won’t do and he’ll be a gentleman and stuff. Like, and if he have a little bit of bad in him, ahh that’s all right.

Another girl added, “they act respectable and they act like a gentleman towards you and towards other people. Like they can’t just be respectful around you but they have to be respectful to everybody and around everybody.” Several girls stated that he had to be “funny, outgoing, street smart and book smart.” One girl added the he has to be “a person that cares about what you think about.” In one of the focus groups, a girl noted that character is important; however it is not the first thing a person notices. She said:

I understand about their character but, the first you look at, you don’t look at his character [it’s] not on the outside. It’s on the inside. So you looking at his appearance first…if he look you know decent and cute enough then the way he talks to you…that gives a hint of his character, of his talk and all of that.

Another girl added, “if I see a fine boy, or something like that, I’m going to like him.” Having good looks was an important feature identified by all of the girls in the individual interviews and focus groups.

In addition to character and physical appearance, overall impression, academic achievement and future goals were also important factors for a boyfriend to possess. One girl stated:

He has to be sweet and funny, very intelligent. A deep personality, like um poetry or something or have goals in his life too. I don’t want a guy who just slacky. I don’t want someone whose pants are hangin’ down to their ankles. I don’t want a gang banger for a boyfriend. I want an intelligent person who can be a CEO if he wanted, write a book, make songs, or something.

One girl in the group added “I’m sorry, I’m that person like if you don’t make A’s and B’s or you don’t make higher grades than me, I’m sorry I can’t date you.” A boyfriend who earned good grades in school was important to all girls in the study. None of girls indicated they were willing to date a boy who was not doing well in school.

In terms of a boy’s reputation, none of the girls wanted to date a boy who had a bad reputation: “his reputation matters, no negative reputation.” One girl described a bad reputation as “he had sex with this girl, had sex with that girl and everybody know.” The majority of girls did not feel it was important to date the most popular boy in school. A girl in one of the focus groups stated “you can be a geek for all I care, you can be a sports star, or just average -- it really doesn’t matter.” Similar statements were made by other girls in the individual interviews and focus groups.

Theme: Characteristics of a Romantic Relationship

Although a majority of the girls in the study did not have boyfriends, all of them had ideas about what constituted a good versus bad relationship. Much of their opinions were based on their observations of their friends and relatives’ relationships. There were no shared stories of observed relationship behaviors between the girls’ mothers and fathers/boyfriends.

Good Relationships

The general consensus was that in a good relationship there must be trust between boyfriend and girlfriend. This was highlighted by the following statement: “When you and a boy got trust. Like you can tell him something. He’s like your best, best, best friend. You can tell him anything in the world.” The underlying themes of the discussion about trust were friendship and respect. One girl explained:

I think a good relationship starts off as friends because if you can’t even be friends you definitely can’t even be in a relationship. Friends first, because when you even look at the word it’s boy friend not boy relationship. It’s boy friend. You have to start off being friends first. I feel like a good relationship has respect and trust always, and honesty because without honesty there’s nothing. Without trust there’s nothing.

Another girl added:

…y’all can talk about anything, just get on the phone and talk for hours about anything. He can sit there and talk to you about what’s on his mind, you can sit there and talk to him and y’all just have a good connection.

Several girls talked about how in a good relationship a boyfriend will respect his girlfriend’s decision to not have sex: “He can wait ‘til you ready to have sex. He treats you good, don’t cheat on you.” Another girl added, “he don’t like you just for your body and how you look, he like you for your inside and it’s okay if he like your body. But he truly likes you from the inside too.” The girls also equated respect with how a boy treats his girlfriend. The majority of girls believed a sign of a good relationship is that the boyfriend “treats you well and he doesn’t treat you like trash.” One of the girls elaborated on the statement “treats you well” by stating “a good boyfriend don’t put his hands on you, don’t curse or call you another word.”

In contrast, girls participating in one of the focus groups believed that a good relationship is when the boyfriend and girlfriend argue. One of the girls in the group explained:

Some of us folks like arguing and fighting with their boyfriends. Like, I mean, everybody don’t want the perfect guy that’s just gonna sit there, ‘Oh, I love you’, all that stuff, everything nice. Sometimes you want a little excitement, you know. I don’t like dudes that don’t fuss back. You know, I want somebody that’s going to fuss back with me, or something. You know…it’s annoying when they don’t fuss back.

All of the girls in the group smiled and nodded positively in response to the statement. One of the girls added, “To me when you fuss with a boy somehow it just make you love them more.” This was the only group of girls in the study who considered “arguing and fighting with their boyfriends” to be a sign of a good relationship.

Bad Relationships

Several girls identified bad relationships were characterized by “when you can’t trust each other.” Given that the girls identified trust as key to a good relationship, it was no surprise that they believed not having trust constituted a bad relationship. In addition to lack of trust, being pressured by your boyfriend to do things that you do not want to do was discussed in relation to having sex. One girl explained, “all they [boys] care about is you and your body and don’t care about you, what you think or anything …all he wants every minute and every second is to talk about sex.” Similar statements arose during multiple interviews and focus groups. All of the girls believed that being pressured to have sex was indicative of a bad relationship.

Couples who “break up constantly but then get back together” were described by one girl as a bad relationship. The girls shared various reasons why couples break up; however, the most common reason described by the girls was “fighting or arguing for no reason at all, just over little bitty simple stuff.” With the exception of the one focus group who considered arguing to be good for a relationship, the other girls believed constant arguing was a sign of a bad relationship. The majority of girls felt that a boyfriend and girlfriend should make each other happy and have fun. This sentiment was explained by another girl:

…if he can’t even put a smile on your face that’s a bad relationship. If he can’t pull you out of a bad mood, that’s a bad relationship. If he makes your mood worse that’s a bad relationship. I know relationships have their ups and downs but when it’s just constant and it’s just not getting better, that’s a bad relationship. If it’s not even moving forward, if it’s just like at a standstill it can’t even be a relationship. It’s like you just calling each other boyfriend and girlfriend for no reason.

Furthermore, several girls talked about relationships where the boyfriend and girlfriend were not supportive or respectful of each other. One girl explained it as “they discourage each other, are awful and never have anything good to say about that person. He’s always cussing at [her] or vice versa.” Similar comments about respecting each other were made during the individual interviews as well as focus group session.

As the girls discussed what they perceived constituted bad relationships, they shared stories about relationships involving their friends or relatives. It appeared that their observations of those relationships helped to shape their opinions about the quality of relationships. This was evident as one girl in a focus group shared a story about her friend:

She goes with a boy and he wanted her to [have sex with] him and he was like do my friends too. I think it’s wrong. Because if that’s your girlfriend why would you want her to do all your ….That ain’t love at all.

Another girl shared a story about her cousin who had been in an abusive relationship:

…my cousin, she was in like an abusive relationship. Because like they knew each other for two years and then they got married an then like she said, after they got married he was a totally different person and he would like start beating on her and stuff. And she was like, if you ever get in an abusive relationship, it’s best for you to get out the first time that somebody hits you. And she was like don’t be crazy and go back or don’t listen to what they say because you can get yourself into a lot of trouble.

She went on to add, “it makes me see it a little different …I mean it makes me want to like, if I do like get in a relationship, I mean I would have to like see how that person is around people.” It was these type stories that, in one way or another, shaped the meanings of good and bad relationships for these girls.

Discussion

The purpose of this study was to explore African American adolescent girls’ perceptions about virginity and relationships and how those perceptions influence their decisions to engage in or abstain from sexual activity. The majority of participants understood being a virgin to mean that they had not engaged in oral, anal, or vaginal-penile sex. However, there were a few participants who believed that having oral and anal sex did not constitute a loss of virginity. This ongoing misconception among adolescents about what defines sex is widely reported in the literature.7,1822 Of concern is that this misconception leads adolescents to perceive less risk for becoming infected with an STI including HIV when they engage in oral and anal sex. Addressing such misconceptions is important for improving adolescent sexual health. Therefore, further research is needed to identify the sources of this misconception.

Being a virgin was highly valued among the majority of participants in the study. To them, virginity was associated with self-pride and self-respect. Although not explicitly discussed, each of the participants described themselves in a positive way which was evident as they talked about their self-worth in relation to their virginity status. Findings showed that it was important to them to maintain their virginity and not give it away to someone who they did not consider to be the “right” person. This is consistent with findings from a qualitative study that explored young adults’, aged 18 to 35, definitions of virginity loss. In that study, nearly half of the participants viewed virginity as treasured gift and was only given to someone worthy of it.18 If these views of virginity are common among young adolescent females, an important question is what happens to such views as they become older and become sexually active. A plethora of research has been conducted to identify factors that predict sexual debut2328; however, research is warranted to understand how adolescents’ views of virginity change as they transition to first sexual intercourse. It is important to understand the changes in their views of virginity so that programs designed to delay sexual activity can appropriately address them.

The participants alluded to their mothers’ role in shaping their views about virginity as well as instilling in them a sense of pride and self-respect. Therefore, it is imperative to involve mothers and their daughter in sexual risk reduction programs to promote effective, quality sexual communication. Numerous studies have been conducted to examine and improve sexual communication between mothers and daughters; however, more research is needed to understand the level and type of sexual communication that occurs during early adolescence. Additionally, research is needed to understand the contextual factors that influence both mother’s and daughter’s ability to communicate openly about sexually-related topics.

In regard to the ideal boyfriend, there were commonalities among the qualities that the participants identified as being important qualities in a boyfriend. Findings suggest that the participants are looking for a boyfriend who will be supportive of them and their opinions as well as be concerned with his academic accomplishments. This is consistent with findings from a study on ideal partner selection among adolescents. In that study, findings showed that adolescents preferred to be in a long-term relationship with a partner who is funny and smart; whereas, physical appearance was more important in a short-term or casual relationship.29 The qualities of the ideal boyfriend identified in the current study show that adolescent girls value internal qualities (i.e., humor, intelligence) as well as physical appearance. This provides a foundation for helping adolescent girls to think about the ‘type’ of boy they want to date and how essential they believe it is that he possess the qualities they identify as important. This is a key factor in helping adolescent girls make decisions about whom they will date and with whom they will engage in sexual activity.

Even though the majority of participants did not indicate they were in romantic relationships, they had specific opinions about the quality of relationship in which they wanted to be involved. Findings imply that participants want to be in relationships where they feel loved and respected. Additionally, the ability to talk openly with each other about anything was also important because it established a sense of trust and support. Similar findings from other studies showed that caring and communication were associated with intimacy and supportiveness.10,30,31 Much of the literature on partner selection 3235 and relationship quality 1,10,36,37 focus on older adolescents and adolescent mothers. More research involving early adolescents is needed.

The perception of the participants who believed a good relationship involves arguing and fighting cannot be overlooked. In further discussion with those participants, it was evident that the majority would provoke an argument with their boyfriend to “test his love.” Based on the conversations in that focus group, there was no singular role model or factor that helped to shape the participants’ views. It appeared to be a compilation of their observations of peers, family, and the media (i.e., reality TV) where relationship ‘drama’ was a common theme. There is the concern that having such views about relationships are potential precursors to being involved in an unhealthy abusive relationship. Therefore, further research is needed in this area.

Through the conversations in the individual interviews and focus groups, it was apparent that the participants’ desire to maintain their virginity could be compromised if all the pieces (perceived ideal boyfriend, perceived good relationship) came together. However, the true conflict will occur if their idealized views of boyfriends and relationships are not congruent with reality. For example, in terms of social development, adolescent girls tend to seek closeness in relationships whereas adolescent boys tend to avoid intimacy in a relationship.38 Similar articles1,10,39,40 on romantic relationships among adolescents cite that boys are often socialized to avoid expressions tenderness and loving emotions in relationships. Instead they are socialized to view romantic relationships as an opportunity to engage in sexual activity. In contrast, girls are socialized to focus on romance, affection, and caring.39,40 When these differing approaches to relationships collide, an important question is how will the adolescent girl reconcile her expectations of a boyfriend and relationship with reality. In such situations, if the adolescent girl lowers her expectations to match reality, there is the potential issue of power imbalance in the relationship with the adolescent girl yielding to her partner in order to maintain the relationship. Findings from studies on power imbalance in relationships among young adult women show that women who perceive they have less power in the relationship report lack of ability to negotiate condom use.4144 In terms of the current study, the issue of potential power imbalance raises concern about adolescent girls engaging in high-risk sexual practices, such as inconsistent condom use and multiple sex partners, in order to maintain romantic relationships. Because of the consequences associated with high-risk sexual behavior (i.e., pregnancy, STI, HIV), further research is needed to identify factors associated with power imbalance in adolescent romantic relationships.

Identity development is a major developmental task during adolescence.8 Because intimacy is closely linked to identity development,8,9 the early adolescent girls’ ability to navigate romantic relationships can potentially influence development of their identity. When adolescents’ views related to romantic relationships and intimacy are challenged, there is the potential for them to conform to their partners’ desires in order to initiate and/or maintain the relationship. Consequently, their personal identity is suppressed which, if continued over time, can have long term negative consequences that continue throughout adulthood.2 The negative consequences can include low self-esteem, lack of confidence in communicating with partner, depression, and risk for future negative romantic relationships.1,2,30 Therefore, research is warranted to explore the positive and negative influence of romantic relationships on identity development during early adolescence. It is also important to gain understanding of the context in which early adolescent girls decide to compromise or maintain their values and beliefs about romantic relationships and intimacy.

When considering the themes identified in this study, the overarching theme becomes maintaining virginity within the context of good relationship with the ideal boyfriend. It is important to think about how these early adolescent girls will navigate situations in which their views about virginity, boyfriends, and romantic relationships are challenged. It must also be considered that it is within the context of such situations that early adolescent girls are at increased risk for initiating unprotected sexual intercourse. Romantic relationships among early adolescents are understudied. It is imperative that such relationships are further explored in order to inform pregnancy and STI prevention programs that target young adolescent girls.

Limitations

A limitation of this study is the potential that participants provided socially desirable responses. To decrease that risk, participants were assured that their responses would be kept confidential and not shared with their parents. Based on the degree of openness in the individual interviews and focus groups, it is believed that the participants were truthful in their responses. Another limitation of this study is the generalizability of the study findings. The study is limited to early adolescent African American girls living in the Southeastern U.S. The potential bias in sampling is another limitation. To address this issue, every effort was made to ensure that the sample represented a range of socioeconomic backgrounds (based on whether participant received free or reduced school lunch; Table 1),17 participant education (public, private, city schools), and family structure (one- and two-parent households).

Conclusion

The sociocontextual factors that influence sexual decision making among adolescents are multi-faceted and are further complicated by the developmental changes which adolescents undergo. Findings, while limited, are the first to provide insight into how early adolescent African American girls’ view being a virgin. Additionally, there is improved knowledge of the interplay of boyfriend and relationship qualities with making decisions about initiating or abstaining from sexual activity, which is important when trying to determine points of intervention. Findings from this study suggest STI prevention programs should incorporate activities to enhance values such as self-worth, self-pride, and self-respect, which are likely to play an important role in an adolescent girl’s decision to engage in or abstain from sex. Furthermore, findings suggest the need for education about healthy relationships.

Acknowledgments

This research was supported by Award Number K01NR011277 from the National Institute of Nursing Research (NINR). The content is solely the responsibility of the authors and does not necessarily represent the official views of the NINR or the National Institutes of Health.

Footnotes

Disclosures

The authors report no conflicts of interest in this work.

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