The results identified the meaning of caring for dying people with three subthemes: (1) Being attentive to the dying persons and their families, (2) Being cared for by the dying persons and their families, and (3) Being faced with barriers. The three subthemes were comprehended as a main theme namely “sharing space and time to be lost within an organizational context” [].
| Table 1The overview of three subthemes and a theme |
Being attentive to the dying persons and their families
Nurses' narratives revealed that they had different ways to be attentive including relieving the spiritual pain by talking and listening, using humor and touch, and supporting dying persons and their families. The texts revealed that dying persons and their families suffered from the implication of their destiny and fluctuation of spirits (high/low spirits). Mental ambivalence among these groups of persons and their families was the most common experience that nurses confronted every working day. Consequently, the majority of the participants, according to their years of experience and experience-based teachings, expressed that they should be a good listener to the dying persons without any biased judgments in their language. The participants identified dying persons' sharing of themselves and beliefs through talking and listening to them. Additionally, smiling, being cheerful and speaking fairly to increase the happiness of them and their families were reported by the majority of the participants:
“So, we try to make contact with them and their families as we work; while I am injecting I make it seem fun or tell a joke.”
Nurses described that there is an interrelationship between the spiritual distress of persons and their families, the quality of communication, and necessary and expected support that should be provided. Factually, spiritual distress was acting as an intervening condition that was affecting the quality of support. Based on interview data and in-depth interpretations, the essence of problematic support among poor and rich dying persons and their families was different. The main intervening problem among the poor was economical problems that were exhausting them, while relinquishing a person's spouse and growing feeble in empathy was the foremost intervening condition. Therefore, such problems that can make persons' conditions worse lead nurses to support them in different ways by referring them to the social work services or even by supporting them themselves as commented:
“They were not able to manage costs and that is why his father was so depressed. Some times the staff collected the money for them to pay for tickets and….” (1)
To support the dying persons and their families, nurses sometimes play a counselor role for them. For instance, a female nurse described a situation in which a male dying person talked with her about his personal problems and how the nurse helped him to solve the problem:
“I referred to his family and talked with them about his situation and finally I could persuade them to come to the ward and visit him.” (11)
Supporting the dying person and even their families is not limited to the hospital. Some nurses talked about making an appointment with their families out of the hospital when they are off work. They believe that such friendly relations, mainly with young persons' families, help them to confront the problems that arise during this period of time:
“Sometimes we make an appointment out of the hospital. Such friendly relations help them to overcome their problems, at least their psychological problems.” (10)
Being cared for by the dying people and their families
The text revealed that the majority of participants experienced a love and belonging condition or in-depth altruistic feeling among themselves and their clients within a mutually caring relationship. General inferences from interview data revealed that the majority of participants through working with dying persons experience a situation that stimulates them to be attentive to looking for meaning in their life. This has been reflected in their stories in different ways. Some of them stated that working with dying people leads them to forget their own problems. In other words, their view of life concerning what is important or not has been changed:
“I can say that I realized what is important in life and some of the things I thought were important are not. That is why I am really satisfied.” (5)
Some nurses stated that since working with end-of-life persons, their fear of death decreased and their acceptance of death increased. They felt that it is their different view of life that leads them to have a different view of death as well. They explained their experiences as a self-transcending, unifying force, which finds meaning in life, disease, and death:
“Now this earthly life is so unvalued for me due to what I have seen here. I believe that death will come to me sooner or later.” (3)
Most of the nurses reflected that working with people at the end of life requires ones to give their heart to the work and to put aside the self. They mentioned it being compassionate and account it as a specific and essential part of their relations with people at the end of life. The majority of participants stated that dealing with dying persons who are near to death with uncertain conditions made them more patient with them. It provided the participants with an inner strength that made them strong against personal difficulties:
“As soon as I want to shout at my children, I remember my patients and I think that I should not be angry. I learnt to be patience.” (7)
Doing the best for dying persons, both personally and professionally, was valued by all participants and supported in the contextual notes. The participants reflected the experience of enjoyment when alleviating the physical and spiritual pain because they did the best in preparing one for death. They consider it as a gift to be a witness to the dying persons and learn from them.
“I think it is a gift to see the process of dying, because we're always leaning when we sit and support dying people….” (5)
Participant nurses commented about their inspiring experiences, whereby they have witnessed the special situation. Two nurses explained their vitalized experiences and how they got energy from being the witness of the relations between the dying persons and their families:
“The family begged her to enter the hospital, where they felt her pain could be better controlled. She died there, holding her daughters' hands.” (13)
Two other nurses in their stories described the situations in which they witnessed “miracles.” They account these occasional miracles as inspiring situations and also as an important reason for their continuing to work with such people:
“It was the last day of Farvardin [the first month in Persian calendar] and she was at home with her family. An important reason behind working here and why I stay in it is that sometimes miracles do happen.” (12)
Being faced with barriers
Participants described some interfering conditions in spite of their willingness to do the best for dying people. The participants felt discouraged, although they strongly desired to care for the people at the end of life; this is a consequence of the nurse shortage and heavy workload. The nurses have limited time to make an interaction with their patients, which is defined by the participants as a large barrier to provide effective care for dying persons:
“We know that dying persons need us to be with them, but we really have no time, because there are many patients in the ward.” (7)
Furthermore, the participants explained the lack of autonomy toward the dying persons whom they have cared for to be another key intervening condition. They emphasized that nurses, in spite of spending a lot of time with dying persons and being the most informed of their needs, are not able to intervene in the decisions making to provide the dying persons' well-being:
“We spend a lot of time with patients but we cannot decide about their environment, about their food, and their clothes.” (3)
The lack of a desirable environment was perceived by nurses as a barrier to their effective care for dying persons. According to them, terminally ill persons who are psychologically depressed and are hospitalized for a long time need a favorable environment with some entertainment in order to reduce their suffering and also to improve the quality of care. Without such an environment it was said:
“Many of our patients are so depressed. They tell us that being in a hospital for a long time is so boring for them.” (1)
The lack of palliative care to focus on people's special needs during the process of death and dying was found to be another barrier as discussed by the participants. They described that in the oncology unit, they just use chemotherapy or other life-saving strategies that lead dying persons to face an uneasy death. Palliative care, however, provides them an opportunity to help persons to overcome the fear and sadness as natural responses to death. One of them expressed her own experience with a person who was close to death, but still expected something to be done for her. It was difficult for her to accept her own death:
“She was at the end. Her eyes were insistent with me to understand. I felt terrible that I still could not do anything for her.” (5)
The other participants described that palliative care is providing a good quality of life with respect to the dying process and death, while using life-saving strategies in an oncology unit is actually prolonging life, but with no quality:
“Actually we just try to extend their life with chemical drugs, even if we see how they suffer from those drugs and how many difficulties they have.” (9)
They explored that dying persons in an oncology unit are not able to choose their treatment and have no authority to decide about the sedative drugs, while in palliative care, the persons and their families have the right to participate in every decision-making process:
“They at least should be able to use sedative drugs, but the physician is the one who decides even about using sedative.” (4)
It is worth noting that some nurses expressed that palliative care unit is essential for dying persons, but it is difficult for them and their families to be there and know that they have at the end. It may cause great stress to the dying persons, and may even hasten death by destroying hope. In addition, they described that while most of the dying persons would prefer to spend their dying process at home, rather than in an oncology setting, being in a palliative care unit would be a terrible experience for them. They emphasized the necessity of public education about end-of-life care in order to facilitate the people's acceptance of it:
“But at least for some patients, and even their families, it is so hard to be in a palliative care unit. I think all the people need to be educated about end-of-life care.” (8)
Sharing space and time to be lost within an organizational context
According to the interview text, caring for dying people seems to mean sharing space and time to be lost within an organizational context. It is an opportunity that presents itself when the final bell in life is about to be rung. Caring for dying people was expressed by nurses as a reciprocal agreement in which they gave and received care and satisfaction through their interactions. The existential context demanded nurses to create a close relationship with dying person and the whole family, whereas the organizational context required a technical caring. It means that nurses used their efforts in forming a caring relationship in a frenzied caring environment. Nurses described the need for a special unit to focus on the caring relationship with dying persons and their families. In such an environment, they felt that they would be able to give holistic care to the patients and facilitate their dying process.