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HERE is growing recognition of the importance of within-family variability in understanding intergenerational relationships (
Davey, Janke, & Savla, 2005;
Suitor, Sechrist, & Pillemer, 2007). The majority of adults were not raised as the only child in their family (
Eggebeen, 1992), and an extensive literature documents that siblings may experience different relationships with parents throughout childhood (
McHale, Updegraff, Jackson-Newsom, Tucker, & Crouter, 2000;
Richmond, Stocker, & Rienks, 2005;
Stocker, 1995;
Tucker, McHale, & Crouter, 2003;
Volling & Belsky, 1992), and these differences and their effects may persist into adulthood (
Davey, Eggebeen, & Savla, 2007;
Shaw, Krause, Chatters, Connell, & Ingersoll-Dayton, 2004). In the present study, we examine within-family variability in adult siblings’ recalled experiences with their parents and association with positive and negative affect across midlife.
Across the lifespan siblings experience what has been referred to as a “shared environment” in which they all are exposed to the same environmental factors, such as parents’ average level of affection and discipline, economic status, and other characteristics of their environment that work to create similarities between siblings (
Daniels & Plomin, 1985). In addition to genetic differences (
Pike, Manke, Reiss, & Plomin, 2000), siblings also have nonshared experiences characterized by those environmental factors that work to make siblings from the same family different from one another (
Dunn & Plomin, 1990;
Rowe & Plomin, 1981). Nonshared experiences include siblings’ relative treatment by their parents (i.e., favored vs. unfavored) and changes that occur in the home environment at different ages for each sibling (e.g., parental health may decline after older siblings are grown, and younger siblings may experience a sickly parent in adolescence;
Dunn, 1993). A goal of this study is to consider how two aspects of nonshared environment (NSE), adult siblings’ recollections of parental treatment and characteristics of their home environment, are connected to current positive and negative affect.
Research on differential treatment in childhood highlights its importance for individual well-being (
McHale et al., 2000), but the extent to which perceived differences persist into adulthood (
Boll, Ferring, & Filipp, 2005;
Cicirelli, 1995) and whether these disparities are associated with current well-being are unclear. On the one hand, perceived differences may diminish over time. Parents clearly differentiate between younger and older siblings in early childhood, but as siblings enter adulthood, parents may treat them more comparably (
Dunn & Plomin, 1990) or children may come to accept perceived disparities in treatment as a stable family dynamic or eventually reappraise these relationships in adulthood (
Levine & Bluck, 1997;
Piazza, Charles, & Almeida, 2007). On the other hand, theorists argue that once families establish patterns of differential treatment when offspring are young, it is difficult to break these patterns in adulthood (
Fingerman & Bermann, 2000;
Troll, 1996). Indeed, studies find that adults retain distinct ideas about who was the favorite sibling in the family (
Bedford, 1992;
Suitor & Pillemer, 2000;
Suitor, Sechrist, Steinhour, & Pillemer, 2006). In childhood, less favored siblings may suffer emotionally, experience decreased self-esteem, and exhibit behavioral problems (
Brody, Stoneman, & Burke, 1987; McHale et al;
Stocker, 1995;
Tamrouti-Makkink, Dubas, Gerris, & van Aken, 2004). Other studies find that adult children who feel even slightly favored report better well-being. We expect that offspring with memories of being treated more poorly than their siblings in childhood would fare worse on indicators of positive and negative affect in midlife, over and above average recalled levels of treatment by parents within the family.
Previous studies suggest that parental differential treatment may vary by domain (
Hamilton-Giachritsis & Browne, 2005;
McHale et al., 2000;
Tucker et al., 2003). Parents may not only favor one sibling with greater affection but also discipline that sibling more often. Differential treatment may exist with regard to affection, but not with regard to discipline. Moreover, studies suggest the domain in which differential treatment occurs has implications for adjustment in childhood (Tucker et al). Most studies of adults’ past relationships with parents have been confined to memories of affection (e.g.,
Andersson & Stevens, 1993;
Rossi & Rossi, 1990;
Shaw et al., 2004) without considering other kinds of experiences, but studies considering adults’ memories of problems with parents have found that adults readily recall negative aspects of their relationship experiences (
Amato, 1991;
Fingerman, 1997;
Whitbeck, Simons, & Conger, 1991). Given the multifaceted qualities of parent-offspring relationships, this study focused on siblings’ memories of parental affection, discipline, and conflict. Of course, these memories are reconstructed in the present and may reflect present situations as well as past ones (
Andersson & Stevens, 1993;
Field, 1981;
Halverson, 1988). Yet, regardless of their accuracy, recollections of prior experience may be important for understanding positive and negative affect for individuals as well as the nature of their relationships with others in adulthood (
Amato, 1991;
Brewin, Andrews, & Gotlib, 1993;
Shaw et al., 2004).
We compare differences in memories of offsprings’ relationships with parents “within the same family” to compare siblings’ memories of parental treatment above and beyond family characteristics. Thus, we considered (a) characteristics which may vary across siblings within the same family and (b) characteristics which vary across siblings between families.
Characteristics that vary within families: Individual characteristics of each sibling we could examine were (a) child demographic characteristics (e.g., age, gender, marital status, educational attainment, and employment or parental status) and (b) child personal characteristics (e.g., personality and health). We also considered birth order, which has been linked with parental differential treatment in childhood (
Kowal, Krull, & Kramer, 2004;
McHale, Crouter, McGuire, & Updegraff, 1995;
Tucker et al., 2003).
Age was included because younger siblings tend to be favored in early childhood, but it is not clear whether these effects continue throughout adolescence and into adulthood. Gender was included because mothers tend to favor daughters over sons, and fathers tend to favor sons (
Harris & Morgan, 1991;
Lytton & Romney, 1991;
Siegal, 1987;
Tucker et al., 2003). Finally, adult siblings vary in their current characteristics (e.g., education, employment, marital status, and parental status), and variability in these characteristics may be associated with differences in ties to parents as well as predict their current well-being (
Belsky, Jaffee, Caspi, Moffitt, & Silva, 2003).
Siblings also bring different features to their relationships with their parents that may carry over into differential treatment. Evidence suggests that parents favor easygoing children with more love and nurturance beginning at an early age (
Brody et al., 1987;
Brody, Stoneman, & McCoy, 1992a,
1992b) and are less responsive to difficult or anxious babies (
Rutter et al., 1997). Continuity of individual differences in temperament or personality is beyond the scope of this study (
Angleitner & Ostendorf, 1994;
Mroczek, Spiro, & Griffin, 2006), but we consider whether adult personality characteristics are associated with memories of prior experiences with parents. Finally, prospective as well as cross-sectional studies have shown that individuals’ assessment of their general health and comparative self-rated health are important predictors of their later social and psychological well-being (
Benyamini, Idler, Leventhal, & Leventhal, 2000) and even subsequent mortality (
Mossey & Shapiro, 1982). We therefore include these two variables as a measure of the personal characteristic of each sibling in the family.
Characteristics that vary between families: Previous research has shown that parents with more education are less likely to treat siblings differently based on gender (
Harris & Morgan, 1991), so we expect siblings’ memories of ties to be associated with parents’ education. We also include parents’ health and work involvement when children were young to provide information about the earlier family environment. We added parents’ current health status to our model because this might be associated with the recollection of memories of parental treatment and relationships (
Davey et al., 2005). Finally, we consider family-level characteristics such as sibship size and gender composition. Previous work has shown that smaller sibships are characterized by greater parental differentiation than larger ones (
Freese, Powell, & Steelman, 1999;
Harris & Morgan, 1991) and that the balance of sons and daughters shapes parent–offspring ties in adulthood (
Connidis, Rosenthal, & McMullin, 1996).
In summary, we used within- and between-family comparisons to address the following research questions: (a) What proportion of the variability in recalled parental treatment and positive and negative affect is explained by family membership? (b) What within-family and between-family factors predict variability in adults’ recollections of maternal and paternal affection, discipline, and conflict? and (c) To what extent are recollections of parental treatment associated with current positive and negative affect, controlling for both within-family and between-family characteristics?